Jun the Groomer

Understanding the Law of Integrity has had a tremendous impact on my life; and I believe it could dramatically change yours as well. I was first introduced to the Law of Integrity through an incredibly fascinating book called Acu-Dog: A Guide to Canine Acupressure, By Amy Snow, Nancy Zidonis.

In the book, the author explains that in Traditional Chinese Medicine there is a universal law of nature called The Law of Integrity. It is an understanding that the human body and everything in it is all a part of an integrated system. Everything is connected. The author uses jaundice as an example; when the liver is not functioning correctly the eyes will turn yellow. Even our emotions are connected to our internal organs as documented by so many studies that prove that negative emotions such as anger, stress or guilt can lead to many physical illnesses. 

This concept of everything being connected, that we are all an integral part of the whole, can be expanded to how humans beings, plants and animals are also all connected as parts of a whole system. Then we can zoom out even further to see that our earth, moon, sun and other planets are all a part of our solar system – which is a part of our galaxy. Everything is connected, and we all matter; we all have an effect on the whole.

Once I truly understood this concept, everything began to change for me! I realized how important my role is to the system as a whole. Instead of focusing on what others are doing, and comparing myself to my peers, I realized that it is in my best intersest that we all do well. I also realized that in order for everyone around me to do well, I must be doing well myself. I stopped worrying about what others are doing around me. Now I genuinely wish others well because it’s actually in my best interest that they do well.

Focus on being the best version of yourself that you can possibly be, because in doing so you’re actually benefiting everyone else around you. The liver never stops functioning in order to stop and check on the heart. The lungs never stop breathing in order to make sure the stomach is doing it’s job properly. All of the internal organs in our bodies function the best they possibly can, and never stop to compare or criticize each other.

When I finally understood this concept, I realized what Jim Rohn meant all those years ago when he said, “You take care of you for me, and I’ll take care of me for you.” We are all responsible for each other because we are all connected to each other. But the best way we can help each other is by doing the best we possibly can for ourselves.

“You cannot get sick enough to heal even one sick person on this planet. You cannot get poor enough to help even one poor person thrive. It is only in your thriving that you have anything to offer anyone.” Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

Stop comparing yourself to others because you were never meant to be like them. You are unique and special. I once told my daughters that we are all like different pieces of a puzzle. We are all a part of the big picture, but individually we’re all just little pieces that connect to each other. Some pieces are very oddly shaped, while others look nice and neat. Some pieces will have a smooth, straight line on one side. We call them the end pieces. But no matter how big or small, or how oddly shaped, all the pieces are important. To miss even one would make the puzzle incomplete. They all matter.

“But what would happen,” I asked my daughters, “if all the end pieces got together and tried to make all the other pieces have straight lines on one side too?”

“Then the puzzle wouldn’t work!” Ava, my oldest daughter, exclaimed.

Exactly right. “Then the puzzle wouldn’t work.”

We are all a unique piece of the puzzle – the BIG PICTURE. Never ever, not even for a moment, think that you’re not important or that you don’t matter. Go out and be the best version of yourself that you can possibly be. With courage and confidence! Without apology, and without shame! Because without you this puzzle called Life, just wouldn’t work.